TESTIMONIALS

I am a Sex Addict in Recovery, I was a successful business person and a respected person in the community before sex addiction finally ruined my life. My addiction started at age eleven with obsessive masturbation to pornography and progressed through my teen years and then to an obsession with phone sex at age 16. I was using masturbation, fantasy and phone sex to escape things in my life that I just couldn't face. I had a double life that none of my friends or family had any idea that I was leading. This double life was taxing my ability to function normally. Eventually my whole life evolved around my addiction. I was living to act out! My addiction remained hidden until age 48 when I was caught making obscene phone calls from my place of business. Getting caught was the shake up that I needed to ask for help. My addiction caused me to lose my career and self respect. I was lucky to save my marriage of 30 years because my wife understood that what I had was an illness. Thank God I found SAA! With help from several therapist and my good friends in SAA I have been in recovery for 11 years. My life is better than I ever imagined and I am free from living a life of lies. 

Anonymous

Hi, my name is K and I am a sex addict in recovery. Before finding help by admitting myself into an out of state in-patient treatment facility, my life was very much unmanageable. My inappropriate addictive sexual behaviors began at a very young age as a way to medicate the pain shame and guilt I was feeling inside.

I divorced my first wife in 2001 due in large part to the wake of damage I left behind me as the Internet took more and more of me away from my spouse and children. I had been a sex addict and now know I was for years but at the time never knew there was such a thing. After my divorce and prior to my second marriage I was engaging in serial sexual encounters and group sex. Sex was all I thought about day in and day out. I was seeking it from the minute I awoke to the time I could no longer stay awake. Every day! I am now married to an acting out partner whom I met online. She loved me so much she too was willing to step outside of her value set and engaged in sexual activities at my urgings which went against what she considered acceptable. Our relationship was abnormal to be sure however, she is a person who for the first time in my life understood my addiction but yet followed me into sexual situations that she knew were hurting us both. In time this woman knew that she could no longer live with me and my behavior. Underneath my out of control external behavior, there lived a man that was broken, shame filled and who felt unworthy of being truly loved. I promised I would change, unfortunately I just couldn't. After getting married to this angel my behavior had once again morphed into becoming secretive and engaging in phone sex with unknown people. I also fantasized daily and the chronic masturbation returned. I was well on my way to destroying this relationship just as I had destroyed so many others throughout my life. I had spun out of control with a woman beside me who I loved very much! My life had become unmanageable but sex was all I could think about. I couldn't stop no matter how hard I tried, no matter how many promises I had made. She understood me, but my out of control behavior continued and reached the point where she concluded that I needed outside help, she knew that I was incapable of "fixing" it myself. Treatment was the option that was chosen for me by my family during a very embarrassing intervention. For the first time that I can remember I realized honestly that I was a sex addict and that I wanted to change and more importantly, was willing to change. I left life as I had known it for six weeks traveling to an out of state facility to begin in-patient treatment. I had come to the point where I willingly committed to the program offered me. It was a prayer answered! I have now maintained sexual sobriety as we call it for two years! My life has stabilized, my wife is the absolute love of my life, my children are engaged with me and are recovering from the dysfunction right along with me and I am continuing to learn how to be who I am meant to be. I am ok and lovable and my life has never been better. I understand the pain, shame and guilt millions of people are suffering right now...in this moment! I can promise if anyone wants what I have, it is time to be honest and commit to the serenity that recovery offers and get started on the journey back. Is it your time? Only you can answer this. Take our assessment and if you are willing to commit to getting better, we have the road map. With honesty and hard work a better way of living awaits. With SAA, we are here for you and can help you get started. Get in touch with us and we will help you get started. 

Sincere best wishes! 

K